I've always noticed that i have a different way of seeing the world than others. I don't know why, i just have.
I'm a normal kid from France, my mum's Scottish so i'm half and half really. I've been to international schools my whole life and bla bla bla

But i seem to have specific ideas about things. I donno, lets pick one shall we?
Love for example. Going out with someone. I just don't understand how people can say yes to someone if they know they'll end up breaking up. For me, going out is the beginning of a relationship, and you can't go out with someone just because they've asked you out and you feel sorry for them. I don't understand the people who take advantage of the innocence and vulnerability of someone who's in love with them. Ok, it's human nature to love and to feel so much affection for an other being that they want to spend the rest of their lives with them, but it's just not natural to pretend to love someone. Love is not to be tampered with, even if you'r going to make someone unhappy for a while. You've just got to think: "I know he/she's going to be unhappy is i say no, but if i say yes, i'm really going to hurt their feelings when i finally can't take it anymore and tell them it can't go on."
Some people say i think too much, but sometimes, thinking's all there is to do. Just thinking things over and over in your mind, trying to comprehend things you don't understand. It's what keeps me going really, using my imagination and trying to understand things.

I'm not sure if i'll have to mark this topic as rated, but sex is an other thing.
I was thinking after having heard about a party that went on last weekend (Jenn and Bart know what i'm talking about) and ... well...
There was all this talk about this girl (who's a total slut by the way) who 'made out or more' with this guy she barely knew on her parent's bed! She didn't even like him, but he was the only one there who was willing to sleep with her. What i don't get, is her doing that so rashly, without even thinking it over. For me, the basics of having sex are to have children. And i know that there are condoms and pills and all that, but imagine the responsibility and huge decision of it all. Do i want to have children with this person?
Nowadays, its' just turned into a form of pleasure everybody's suposed to have done before the age of sixteen (well actually it's been that way since man evolved from chimps), but when you think about it, it's something that you will so regret having done at fifteen if it goes wrong. Imagine if you find out your pregnant and you don't even remember who the guy who knocked you up was! I don't knwo about you, but that shocks me. Sex is something you do with a person you love and think the world of. With someone who will be the father or mother of your children.
I don't know what you think about it, but ... well you probably think i'm talking through my... *ahem* you probably think i'm talking rubbish, but i have specific points of views. I warned you i was wierd.lol

Anyway, this is a work in progress and i havn't thought of anything else yet... oh, yeah, appart from that love is a bed of very spiky roses, and they hurt big time! lol

I'll write again soon,
Alba xx

I'm an admin, and I don't think that this topic needs to be rated, as this could also be adressed to a 'smaller' public without shocking them, as us humans think of sex actually quite early in our lifetime.

You're not the only one to think of the world like that.
Mark my words.
What you say is right, sex has turned everyone to a 'sexhappy' state of living, thinking that sex is just another form of pleasure. But you think about it as I do. A form of love.
If I had sex (which wouldn't be probable, until I'm 18, to at least make it legal enough for me), I'm sure I would wear protection for two reasons:
-If the other person has not done yet a test for AIDS.
-I do NOT want to be father at 13-17 years old. I couldn't stand the risk of it all.

Just to let you know you're not the only one that's thinking about the world this way.

Not weird, Alba, admirable. This point of view you have presented, you fear, is beyond the normal and perhaps it is, but if you are indeed weird then mayhap you can take solace at least in knowing that you are not alone.

I'm sorry, I talk weird. What I'm trying to say is that, I share your opinion and support it. Moreover, I'm glad that you had the courage to put up your ideas on this matter. I take my hat off to you.

Awww, you guys are so sweet. Thanx for the support, i don't get much in this area. lol
I'm glad to know that i'm not alone in thinking this way and would also like to hear about your point of views on things like that. Anything: the abuse of children/women/animals; deforestation; poluting; euh... the unfareness of homework.lol
I donno, anything,

Alba xx

Jesus Christ, this topic is probably going to become like one of those conversations I had with Dox a long time ago. Okay, just to bring back a dead conversation;
Why do humans always need this sense of superiority?
Yes, yes, I know this is a question that should not be asked, but, I mean, really.
Humans, at their birth, already depend on superiority. Babies try to get what they want (we all did, at some point, eh). Children then, at school, try to get a reputation. If this succeeds, they rediculize other people, to make them seem stronger than others. Decisions in elementary school are judged by force, thus by fights amongst each other. But those who do not get a reputation will foreveer be considered as inferior to the rest of the mates. Fortunately, I didn't get a reputation, but nor did I get discriminated, except in the first few days.
Then, near teen years, it's almost just like children, except with slightly more diplomacy, more use of words. But reputation then is very important. Someone who has high reputation can say something and be applauded for it, and someone with low reputation can say the same thing, and get objects hauled at him.
Near older years, 15-20, people seem to get alongside with others more, since they have a more mature mind. But then, that's because it gets way more diplomatic. Intelligence comes into play, where it is a race for the grades. People who have bad grades shall stay behind whilst the others will move on.
Once adult, you can feel the full superiority someone needs; Wealth, Health, etc. if you have lots of wealth, you are protected, you live better, etc, whilst people who don't have to beg in streets. If you have health, you are lucky, and you are fully performant, whilst those who don't are handicapped for life and have to move using a stick or a wheelchair.
Presidents, for example, use military force to try to win arguments. Just like children.
Ironic, hmm?

Well, i suppose it's just human nature, just a bad aspect of it. It's like Jellousy, or Hate, or Lust, they all tie down to the same thing: humanity being selfish and self centered. I know i'm making a generality of it all, because of course, some humans have done amazing things for animals, preserving nature and helping other humans in need, but i still can't stop thinking of Man as beeing a pessimistic image. What do you think?

Pessimism is the natural reaction... It is hard to look at a race, any race, and say that they are worth the time you have given them in the few moments you have taken to make a cursory observation. Humanity, no matter in what society, will, as a whole, strive to better themselves. You are right when you say that it is our nature. Alone, one cannot change their own nature. You can all think I'm stark raving mad for saying this, but I believe in God. In fact, it is the same one whose name you use quite frequently, Copy'N'Paste, Jesus Christ, I believe... Fear not, I'm not angry at you, whether or not you care. It is my belief that God is the one who can change the heart, the nature, of a person. I know that He has with me... Perhaps it is not impossible to be a person who can live completely for others without the influence of any other being, but I believe that one of the greatest reasons that society, as a whole, has turned inward is because they are without a reason to do otherwise, without faith, without hope of something more than what exists in the here and now. That is my opinion, that without purpose there is no such thing as love or caring for anything that is not you... Belief is that drive, that meaning, and when it simply doesn't exist, there is no reason to care about actions that will have no residual effect towards your person the moment you die...

So, Whilaroo, basically, you're saying that not having a beleif or goal makes us go to the downfall? If that's what I read, and I think I red correctly, don't think of my above statement as offensive; I can venerate people whom beleive in God, but I can't understand why they think so.

I myself do not have a religion. I do not believe in God, just Man and what he does.
I don't agree with you (Whilaroo) when you say that Man does not care about anyone but himself. This is true about most people, but there are a LOT of exceptions.
Me for exaple. Of course, I don't want to die or be hurt or anything, but I feel so much more affection for certain people than for myself that it would be hard to live without them. My friends, family, the love of my life who i may or may not have met yet... the list goes on.

Alba xx

I think Whilaroo meant that MANKIND only thought of himself.
In some way, what he mentions is true. Mankind is killing the Earth (indirectly or directly) in order to propage mankind.
Mankind for mankind.
Earth for mankind.

But, if he spoke about ones themselves, I have to reject that as you did earlier, but I highly doubt that he mentioned that that way, as we had a conversation on the chatbox not long ago. You can check the archives if you want, to see more detail.

Not offensive... I am not too quick to take things in such an abrasive manner, nor do I feel so insecure as to have my beliefs rattled so easily. All of us have a goal of one kind or another. Anyone can through life with a goal and totally shred everyone around them. In fact, I agree with most of what you said up there... No... a goal is not what we need, rather something more... Hope. Think about it, you could walk through life having a completely set goal that didn't require anyone else to even be thought of as alive. What we really need is something... the promise of more than that which we can see. "Honestly, why should we be anything but out for ourselves?" Ask yourself why not... If you are like me the answer is simple, because we are not in existence simply to acquire for ourselves prosperity in terms of financial wealth or social standing. Like you said, Copy'N'Paste, we all desire some form of recognition, but we go about it in the more 'natural' way. I mean, if you are really just an animal that lives and dies, what is the purpose of being 'nice' to get attention? Well, I suppose some people take that point of view. Think about how easy it is to simply justify doing 'wrong'. What is wrong and right? Oh, for the love of... I'm doing it again...

I believe that love was given to us as the only true picture of what we are supposed to be... It is that belief, most strongly that makes me strive for whatever good is. I want to be a better person because I believe that I should. What is a better person? That's up for you to decide. I have chosen to put my faith in God, because what is said in the Bible makes sense to me... Do I always act perfectly, am I just a good person, no... But I have a reason to try to be... Is what I'm saying making sense? Without a reason to try to be good, why be good? So you may believe in logic or love or a greater good, whatever, the point is that when you believe, your beliefs form you. Everyone believes in something, it's what you believe in that matters. Inevitably, it boils down to a simple question of, "What do you believe?" (That's Rhetorical, by the way) It is that which we believe in that makes us who we are. We are only limited by what we are willing to believe. For instance, and I can totally understand how this doesn't make sense to you, I believe in an all powerful being who created me, a being of worship, to praise him in all I do. I do not always meet up to this so simple standard, but I try. This belief makes me that which I am...

I don't know how else to put it... The goal stems from the belief, the belief is made of hope and faith. Without these, what reason is there for living? And life without reason is only a fleeting experience, so why not make the most out of the time you have left, regardless of anyone else? That is one of the reasons I cannot understand how someone could not believe in God. How can this really be it? How can this be the beginning and the end, but from the perspective that it is, this life is all you have... What are you going to do with it?

Alba, I understand what you are saying, and I do not mean to offend. I was using very broad terminology, as is my tendency. But will you deny that you believe love is important? Why is that? Is there really a reason? Or do you just believe that it is right?

Whilaroo, you're writing huge blocks of text again...

I beleive that our feelings and personality are our true forms of what makes us humans, well, humans. If everyone had the same mentality and feelings as another, what could differ them, except the fact that they are two different beings in reality, but, technically speaking, they would only be clones one another? What happens through our life changes what we do and what we say the second day, and that day changes what we want or what we say the third. Feelings are chosen by your mind, but is your mind chosen by you? I think not. The mind developes the feeling system, as the personality does. So that would mean that personality and feelings have something in common, which is not completely false.
It is true in one way, as personality affects feelings, or vice versa. If you have been mistreated by something or somewho, your personality might think that violence and pain is a normal thing of life (which isn't completely false, also, for that matter) and thus, violence and pain won't afflict you as much as to others. If you were raised by caring parents, or 'too-caring' parents, that treated you too well, breaking to your every complaint, you'll think that your way should be the way, no doubting it, and when you want something, you would have it, no matter what, and you would be hoping to get it as soon as you ask it (as everyone does, for a matter of fact, but some accept decline more than others)
As for feelings can afflict your personality, if you were sad most of your life for diverse reasons, you could then be of a depressive personality. If you were angered very easily, then your personality would change to low temper, and thus act before thinking. Your feelings and personality change the way you act. But do not think that animals do not have personality nor feelings, as I have not forgot them, even though I am talking about humans.
Animals which have consciousness of themselves on the Earth, such as monkies, elephants, dolphins, have personality and feelings, but they get effected by instinct. Monkies may show compassion for one another, and react the same way a 'human' would do, as protecting their one, etc. But they can also show agressive sides against ones that aren't the same as them, as an example was shown by a group of black-furred primates, rejecting a white-furred one. Would that mean that 'racism' exists in every being that has consciousness? Could be so. But then, that would mean that consciousness are immediately agressive against others, (which isn't completely false) and thus, stray into groups, chaning once again their personality and feelings, etc, and that's how goes the line.

Look at he who has chosen to speak!

This opinion is interesting but you act as if there are only outside factors that can alter a state of mind... As if, even at full cognitive power, that a person is incapable of changing themselves, which is, I think, the same feeling that Alba got about my own previous statement. If it is then true that only through outside factors (which, I grant, does have credence to it) are able to alter that within, then we are furthermore just along for the ride that life may or may not give us. It would seem that you say, we are who we are without any say in the matter... Honestly, I am not sure as to whether or not this is indeed what you actually mean. I agree that when we believe ourselves to be only the next step in the evolutionary chain we have a tendency to simply emulate the animal kingdom in following our instincts which are naturally of a fickle constitution. We are shaped by the events and people we meet with, and our personalities can definitely changed by our emotions, but we also have choices as to what influences we allow to change our fundamental beings, and although we have emotions we can choose to suppress them. I am not saying that the oppression of emotions is necessary to living a good life, but if you simply acted on your hatred for a person, would it end up well? If you allowed passion to rule your existence...what do you think would happen? We are not merely at the whim of nature or fate, we have willpower and the ability to exercise it...

If we did not, then everything I have said up to this point is moot. Think about it, we are changed by that around us, but we can choose, to a certain extent, how. Also, from within we are able to choose what we dwell upon emotionally. Now, sometimes, emotions can be overpowering and are hard to control let alone master, but we have the ability to...defy what you might call our nature. We do not have to be simply what the 'world' has 'made' us to be.

I mean not to demean animals either. Though I perhaps do not give them such an elevated position as you do, or rather I do not feel the need to protect their honor so fiercely. I believe that animals do have intelligence, though I know not its extent. I even believe them to be in possession of a soul, not quite like are own but not so different as to be unrecognizable. You seem to feel that animals are threatened in talks of intelligence, which in some circles they might be, but know that here they need no advocate...

Animals have intelligence, that much is true. I take the example of a horse. Anyone who has ever been in close contact with one will know that they are in fact, rather intelligent beings. A horse trying to worm its way out of work or trying to throw a rider will always think up news ways to do so (Believe me I know...).